What do you do when you find yourself alone? Sometimes, that sounds great doesn’t it? Especially if you’re a mother with lots of children running around or you have several jobs to pay the bills. Then time alone is a wonderful respite. But what if you don’t want to be alone? What if that alone time feels more like loneliness? Loneliness is not a feeling most of us enjoy. Speaking for myself, I enjoy being alone but too much of it makes me feel lost. Then I start thinking, which is never good under these circumstances. My brain tells me lies: no one loves me, no one cares about me, no one calls me, no one knows I exist.
The biggest lie is that I’m insignificant.
When I feel like I’m standing at the end of a pier all by myself there are a number of things I can do to erase the lies including the biggest one of all.
First, I need to have an attitude of gratitude. This can include getting a pen and paper and writing down all the things I’m grateful to have in my life. My family, friends, a vehicle that runs, reading, writing, baseball, movies. Anything that makes me happy generally ends up on my list.
Second, I call a friend and we laugh. Whoever said laughter is the best medicine is right. Sharing a laugh makes the lies vanish immediately. Then I get a wonderful understanding; I’m not alone at all. I’m never alone unless I choose to be…it’s a choice. So is loneliness. I can call that same friend and meet for coffee or we can go for a walk together.
Lastly, I don’t need to sit in front of the television and feel sorry for myself. Unless I want that, again, it’s all a choice. I can get on my computer and write or I can journal and acknowledge my feelings and move on. Then I can pick out a good book, the one I’ve been wanting to read, take a deep breath, and plunge into another world. Books are wonderful companions. I’m never lonely with a good book in my hands.
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